The Horrible But Socially Accepted Child Abu§e No Parent Was Ever Accused Of

We have to stop this!

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It's Sunday,

Hi,

Welcome to our Sunday Morning Brunch.

Some of you won't like it today. But here we are.

Grab a cup of coffee and stick with me. It's getting tough.

As you might know by now, the FARMISH Mindset starts with the letter F for freedom and ends with the letter H for health. Today's edition of The FARMISH Mindset Newsletter is dedicated to the letter H.

And it's a disturbing topic.

At least for me. Because I'm a victim too. But let me start with a recent observation.

The summer of 2024 is over. We are now enjoying the last warm rays of sunshine of autumn. I hope your summer was full of good, joyful memories. I also have fond memories of many encounters and events.

Except for one.

The pool party

After a long drive, my wife and I arrived in the beautiful suburb area of Bucharest. The host could clearly see that we were tired, so he invited us to have a cocktail at the pool bar. We gratefully accepted and admired the garden and pool's design.

We were introduced to other guests and included in interesting conversations. Interesting people, great weather. Even better drinks.

Life as it should be. Right?

Only one fact overshadowed the cheerful mood.

The children splashing in the water.

Hey, don't get me wrong!

I like children. I have a son myself.

But this...?

A painful truth

There's nothing more painful for a parent than losing a child. And there are countless reasons why a child leaves this world. It's always way too early. Accidents, illnesses, medical neglect, child abuse and hundreds of other events lead to tragic loss.

It's a horrible list, and the pain must be unbearable.

No one in their right mind would wish the death of a child upon any parent.

But there is another possibility of losing a child that no one talks about.

One for which no perpetrator has ever been arrested, let alone convicted.

And the perpetrators are closer to the victim than you might think. They are the parents themselves!

What I am describing here is almost worse than the reasons already mentioned that lead to the loss of a child. It is even worse because it is not a crime! It is socially accepted.

Not the noise or the kids themselves hit my good mood in the face. But the unmistakable mistreatment of children by their parents.

Without exception, ALL children (around 20 in number) were overweight.

Not with chubby cheeks, chubby arms, and baby fat.

Not flabby with an extra pound or two, no, I mean FAT.

Obese.

You can rightly argue with me that it's none of my business. And if the sight of fat children gives me a headache. Well, then I can just look the other way.

But that's exactly what far too many of us do: look away.

The guaranteed consequences of this abuse

Yes, I intentionally call it abuse.

And I only allow myself to do this because I myself am a victim of this parental misbehavior.

I am not condemning my parents. My childhood was a long time ago. They didn't know any better back then. And a child who was a bit too fat was a sign of vigor.

Also a sign of a bit of prosperity. They signaled to the neighbors that they didn't have to skimp on food.

But times have changed.

Today, no one can claim to have not heard about the effects of obesity. From sugar addiction, too many calories, and too little exercise. The list of health consequences of being overweight in adults has been around for a long time:

• diabetes,

• declining mobility,

• high blood pressure,

• fatty liver,

• heart rhythm disorders,

• lazy pancreas,

• and many more...

But for children, the list is even worse! Because they are still growing and developing hormonally, the extra fat damages the whole body even more. Everything falls out of balance. And developing cells learn quickly. They store instead of burn.

What starts out small ends in 30 kilos of excess weight as an adult. And all too often in much, much more!

Just like in my case

I wasn't obviously fat as a child and teenager. Just a bit chubby. Well built. As they said back then. What no one noticed at the time was the beginning of a steady deterioration in my health. My body craved more and more sweets and processed them worse and worse.

The result was a heart attack at 50.

Nobody wants that to happen to them. And I am sure that no parent wishes this on any child. But, the steady increase in weight problems is more than just "neglect."

The danger of such parental behavior is obviously not being taken seriously.

Most parents complain about the increasing loneliness of their children. They no longer play in the schoolyard. And even less at home. Where there used to be movement, there is now only sitting. Preferably in front of the video screen.

The only limbs that today's children really train are their thumbs...

How does nature see this problem?

Some readers may mistakenly call this article fat shaming.

I don't care what you call it. I've already survived a public shitstorm over this topic. And I will survive it this time too.

The angry users of the term “fat-shaming” miss the point.

And the target. Instead of accusing the perpetrators of our health problems, they attack the messenger. The fact that some people boil over when talking about obesity only shows one thing:

We, as a society, have been completely disconnected from nature.

You can twist and turn it as you like. There is no obesity in the wild.

The tiger with a beer belly - it does not exist.

The elephant with diabetes—never heard of it.

The ant with skeletal damage - has never been found.

Even the animals that eat fruit in incredible quantities - no such thing.

Natural sources of sugar, such as sugar beet and sugar cane, also have predators. Like mice and other rodents.

But even they are not fat!

Final thoughts

I would even go so far as to no longer call obesity in humans an illness.

My own experience shows me that obesity is primarily (but not always) the result of catastrophic lifestyle choices. Poor nutrition, too little exercise and the loss of logical thinking.

If you shovel in 5000 calories but only consume 1500, you are working towards a surplus.

This surplus is killing human beings! Every day, thousands die as a result of mismanaging their bodies.

The chances of struggling with your weight and thus with your health for a lifetime are good. It's like Don Quixote's fight against windmills.

If you want the best for your child (and I honestly assume that you all do), please take one thing from this article:

Think, damn it, about the diet of your child and the whole family. The harmless, well-intentioned Coke could cause your loved ones a lifetime of suffering.

Will the child be willing to forgive later on?

Maybe.

I lost a lot of weight and it's under control today. And I forgave my parents long ago.

But not everyone is like me...!

To your and your family’s health,

Daniel